When is this going to end?

Countrygal…..so you know me from other forums do you or is that what the person you’ve been talking to wants you to believe? I’ll hate to be as gullible like that, going only by hear say

Personally I don’t care! If you bother to open your eyes and look at what is being said here, you will notice that the person you are trying to backup started all this on here, and continues to follow my posts around and comment on them.

I have told the person to stay out of my business, but this person or thing refuses to do so. So please before you start to take the high moral ground, look at posts, what is being said and try to understand that it takes one action for a reaction to happen.

I am only rude to people that are rude to me. I have met a couple of people on this site in person, and have shown the utmost respect in my dealings with them. The same goes for you too, keep your nose out of my business and everyone is happy! If you can’t do that, then you are the one with the problem.

-- Hooked on Gardening.....Ontario zone 5b

I would suggest that if somoneone has an issue with another member rather than stating it pubically, “take it outside” by conversing through the personal messages section. I have been on too many sites that soured due to a few quarreling members.

-- Xploreorganics, 5b Canada, LFD 06-20

Mr Bullseyes you are quite witty, smart, knowledgeble in all kinds of things that make GT so remarkable.
Having been the but of some of your behavior, both on site and on personal emails,(where I saw the “real” person), I personally have decided that this bully has to be ignored. You will not stop because you believe you are the “right”!
You ask that people, in this instance Countrygal, me before, stay out of your business.
You make your business “public” when you answer on site. If you want people to stay out of your business, keep it private!

-- Eklectic, Follow my Bliss, South East Ontario 5a

There are so many awesome sites out onthe internet but why does this happen. I think it has to do with the dark side of Human behaviour.

I agree with Xploreorganics take it to the pm or just ignore it. Humans will stop if they know it is not getting the desired reaction that they are craving.

-- Living on the level... Central Ontario...1.25 hrs from TO.......Zone 5a

Please…..enough of the patronizing.

Eklectic, you don’t know anything about me, not even half of it. Yes I post stuff on the forum, but what I don’t have to put up with, is some moron coming on here, pretending to know me and then start talking cr4p.

This is first and foremost a garden forum, and that is how it should be viewed.

-- Hooked on Gardening.....Ontario zone 5b

It’s important to remember that we never have all of the details – there is always more to a situation than we are aware of.
But then, we don’t need to know the details; we just need to remember that we don’t know the full story. One misunderstanding creates another misunderstanding and the next thing you know several people are saying bad things about fellow gardeners! We “ALL” need to practice our civility and our private messaging.

I can understand how easy it is to react without taking that second to remember to do it privately but things usually snowball out of control when we “react” rather than respond.

Keeping the talk to “gardening related issues” brings out the best in everyone – including their support, their wisdom, their experience, and their questions which only help us all.

-- - Debbie, SW Ontario Canada (USDA Hardiness Zone: 5a)

And now on As The World Turns..

Some times the net is full of drama.. Some times it’s a sterile void.. It’s all part of the dynamic nature of the Internet. Why I remember back in the day of BBS’s many an argument. It’s just how things are.

Often times issues are started over something as simple as a misunderstanding or misreading of a sentence. Often those little nuances picked up in person are lost online which can change perspective on what is conveyed.

Anyway, Like MsD said, you never really know all the details.

So…. Lets all go play in the dirt.. Rub it between your fingers and gripe when it’s under your nails.

It’s all good.. ;)

I’d be playing in the dirt but it’s freakin cold.. Have a frost warning tonight, so going to go cover some of the young plants.

-- Planting Daylilies in Kentucky, zone 6b

nicely said Scott.

our dirt is cold here as well

-- - Debbie, SW Ontario Canada (USDA Hardiness Zone: 5a)

I just hope you folks can resolve your differences or or maybe find the resources to keep the bad feelings to a minimum.
I have a few people that I can’t get along with too but I have found that I can pretty much ignore them in most cases.
Even if you’re both right you will find that people will soon regard you as a pariah if you continue to quarrel in public.
That’s not a good thing!

Cheers
Bob

-- I am a strong believer in luck and I find the harder I work the more I have of it. Alberta Canada Zone 3A or maybe 3B

Bob and Scott…..I hear yous two, but what some people are failing to notice, is that everything was fine until a certain person or thing descended on this forum, with no interest in gardening by the looks of things, and decided I was someone else, called me a name that isn’t mine, and decided to just come on here to antagonize my posts.

The threads and posts are there for all to see. I think my posts pretty much speak for themselves, and show that gardening is my motive here!

-- Hooked on Gardening.....Ontario zone 5b

I saw that, Bullseye…. and then the snowball started rolling. Downhill. Fast.
Anyway… let’s move on again and hopefully the non-gardening stuff will be left at the door.

-- - Debbie, SW Ontario Canada (USDA Hardiness Zone: 5a)

I went through a bout of this myself with a cantankerous moron in B.C. a few years back.
When he was finished publicly spearing me and tattling to the various forum administrators and private messaging everyone he could think of, my good name was mud just like his.

I will tell you definitely, you cannot win these contests.

Best to stick to what you came for and try to ignore what bothers you.

Bob

-- I am a strong believer in luck and I find the harder I work the more I have of it. Alberta Canada Zone 3A or maybe 3B

yuck.. mud slinging is such a waste of time… unless of course you are having a waterfight in the backyard and anything goes! lol

-- - Debbie, SW Ontario Canada (USDA Hardiness Zone: 5a)

I have a mega super super duper water soaker better go run and hide to late splash I started it ….....

-- Living on the level... Central Ontario...1.25 hrs from TO.......Zone 5a

Your right MsD mud slinging is such a waste of time.If you don’t like a post then don’t comment on it.Simple as that.And yes the dirt is too cold here to have fun too.Everyone have a nice day now ya hear.

-- Bon,Hastings,Ont.....zone 5a....Always room for one more

I think I’ll go eat worms…

-- http://woodsongsfurniture.com

“if you don’t like a post then don’t comment on it”.......true, but at the same time if someone has asked you to stay out of their business ( posts and threads ), then you might just want to do that. Simple as that innit?

Anyhoo….back to gardening, unless of course you don’t have a garden and are just here to stir you know what up

-- Hooked on Gardening.....Ontario zone 5b

Hi you all!
Looks like there is a lot of mud being thrown around her!This last post is quite something isn’t it?
You would think that after all that mud going around, somebody would stop trying to pick a battle!!

Looks like it is going to be a lot of fun here. Been reading all the post, thought I would learn about gardening, I guess mud is needed in gardening!

-- poisoncontrol, there is to much poison in the world: let's eradicate it!

For a first post, you seem to know much about what’s going on here eh? You aren’t fooling anyone here “poisoncontrol”, I guess it didn’t take you long to register again did it?

No introduction, just straight in there like you knew what brought this all up in the first place.

-- Hooked on Gardening.....Ontario zone 5b

come on everyone.. at least let the old wounds heal. Everyone is trying to be civil and move on but wounds are too fresh and too easily re-opened.

It takes a community to raise a child and to keep a gardening site healthy and growing. We all have to work together here. Let this topic rest.

EVERY comment made here either tears this site apart or nurtures it. Think twice before you hit that “Post this reply” button. Are you nurturing this GardenTenders garden?

-- - Debbie, SW Ontario Canada (USDA Hardiness Zone: 5a)

Hey folks. I’ve read all the comments and it makes me sad. We are here to talk about gardening, not to argue. If someone is nasty or offensive, please send me private message and I take care of it. Don’t participate, don’t answer, just ignore all nasty posts or comments and let me know that there is something going on. And now, lets talk about dirt, plants, flowers and all the things that makes you feel happy. Howgh :)

-- Michal, http://gardentenders.com

As I said in my profile

This Spring is late but I can’t wait to play in the dirt with all 10 fingers and toes

I think we all feel the same and maybe we have been shut in for such a long long winter and we are bursting to get outside and get dirty

So let’s play and get down right diggie and dirty huh, lol,lol

I am new here and i want to learn all the gardening I can plus meet new people and have a lot of fun

Everyone seems so nice and I’d love to keep it that way

cheers Just me, frothing at the bit to garden

Carolyn

-- NS Zone 5B 200 KM East of Halifax cheers Bunting------Having a place to go – is a home. Having someone to love – is a family.

where and how do I find previous posts on this arguementive topic other than what’s on this page

I guess I want to read what is the problem here and who said what that sparked all this

thanks

carolyn

-- NS Zone 5B 200 KM East of Halifax cheers Bunting------Having a place to go – is a home. Having someone to love – is a family.

Probably not worth your time, Bunting.

Seriously, compared to some of the other contentious forums where I spend time, this place is a perennial teaparty. (sorry, I always intend my puns, I’m vicious like that) Getting bent out of shape on off-topic crapola is a total waste of time.

Now that Bulli has provided us with means to air our greivances in a manner that won’t derail an otherwise thoroughly pleasant forum, I amicably suggest we all follow his advice.

I’m off to take some shots of my first bloomers of the season…my mini-dafs and hyacinths. I wish I could upload the scent of these hyacinths and share them with you all!

-- Living on the square...Metro Detroit

Hey speaking of mud, I was on my way home from work late one night and there were all these big pick up trucks parked at the side of the road. I couldn’t tell what colour they were because of the mud. They had been mud driving and when I looked toward the creek it looked like one of them had got too close to the water and wasn’t going to be able to get out with out some bigtime help. I couldn’t help but be glad that my two sons are away from home and wouldn’t be able to try this activity. Isn’t it grand to be young!!!

-- horsetail, Fergus, Ontario

Loved the story horsetail!!! Brought a smile to my face!!

Hey “D” can’t wait to see those first time bloomers of the season!!! Load up that camera!!

And yes, let’s all get back to what we do best and why we joined this awesome site … sharing our love of gardening and all that wonderful wit and laughter too.

-- "A perfect garden is just a garden to be in-perfection. Mornings to work on it and evenings to pause and look at it." Southeast Michigan, Zone 5a/5b

That brings back so many memories horsetail…this was one of my favorite activities before I became a tree-huggin, mud-loving environmentalist :D

-- Xploreorganics, 5b Canada, LFD 06-20

Hey what ever turns your crank!!!! What are the gas prices and tow job where you are? I guess I am old and responsable ROFL.

-- horsetail, Fergus, Ontario

I took a whiz outside a while ago

I got fluers blooming too

Darn forgot to take my camera

Better do that before the sun goes down

-- NS Zone 5B 200 KM East of Halifax cheers Bunting------Having a place to go – is a home. Having someone to love – is a family.

Bunting …. Fleurs so soon? Wonderful news and yes, please take some pics when you
are able. Hopefully you are in for an early Spring.

blooze

-- blooz 5b - You can bury a lot of troubles digging in the dirt. ~author unkown